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7 Ways How To Get Through a Business Meeting when you are depressed.

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Depression and Anxiety at the Work Series

#6 Proven Ways How To Get Through A Business Meeting When You're Depressed

23. March 2019

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"Cancel, cancel, cancel!" These words were on his mind when he went to re-schedule the business meeting.

Too many reasons; too exhausted and unfocused to do it; too many meetings to attend and all with new demands on his executive functioning.

What nobody knows that he could not functioning at all.

Some months ago depression had entered his life. It had started as a blues, then it had affected his mood, his thinking and vitality. Finally, he had reached a point to get the help he needed.

During one of our sessions he was wondering how to go through his business meetings: he couldn't focus for long, had problems organizing his thoughts and felt too weak to negotiate. "I feel like a beginner groping in the fog.", he described his inner world. "I'm powerless. I can no longer move the fog away and do what I used to do with ease."

Here are six proven ways that helped him and others to go through business meetings if you feel depressed or weak. They will help to control your emotions and thoughts.

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Use these 6 proven strategies to go through a business meeting in control of your emotions and thoughts.

 

 

#1. Plan

Plan your breaks. Prioritize meetings and always plan daily short timeouts between appointments and tasks. So you will find enough time to regain energy. You can go outside for a short walk, or use the silence to think thing over or you can do some brain gym exercises to re-energize.

Consider delegation: If the meeting is not very important, ask your staff or colleagues to participate because of "overlapping appointment".

Put meetings in your best phases of the day. If your anxiety or depression is higher in early morning hours, perhaps schedule important meetings in the afternoon.

Be prepared. First identify your goal of the meeting and gather arguments supporting your goal. This will help you structure your thoughts before the meeting and will guide you through the meeting. Also include the other people in the meeting and their interests in your preparation to have good points in your hand. Make notes during the meeting and insist on writing the minutes by a meting member.

 

#2. PRESENT 

Focus on the discussion. Instead of drifting into your own thoughts that are often negative, try to listen to the input of others. Try this for one minute first. Whenever you drift to your own thoughts, notice it and go back to the present movement. Congratulate yourself for your effort. When answering, try to repeat what you heard and understood. So you can not only structure your own, but you also impress others as a great  listener and conversation partner - people always appreciate this behavior.

Grab the table. If you feel weak and overwhelmed, grab the table or a pen and be fully aware of this feeling: "How is the table/pen feeling in your hands?" "How is the surface feeling?" "Does it have some rough edges?" Do this intensive but silent observation for 10 sec or one minute. This will provide you with a sense of control.

 

#3. POSTURE 

Change your posture. When you feel depressed or anxious, your body posture will show this. Your shoulders may be rolled forward, your back may be bent, you may look downward. Realize this and simply strengthen your body. Whenever you get more height and space in your posture and stance you will increase your energy level and decrease your stress level. Sit upright, expand your chest and roll your shoulders back. Feel your buttocks firmly on the chair and slightly lean forward. Try to make wide gestures. This will bring you back in a position of power and energy. Form your hands as a triangle to get a strong feeling in your hands.

 

#4. PRENTEND

Change your look. If it is hard for you to change your feelings, pretend another alter ego. Wear your "pink" glasses for example by wearing special glasses for important business meetings that let you look competent and strong. The same effect may have certain clothes. Use them like a prop for your energized and vital self. You can also put your watch from the left to the right wrist before the meeting. The right hand is associated to masculine, planning and thinking energy. You will literally program yourself to this more useful energy.

 

#5. PLANT

Root yourself as a tree. On some days you may feel too unstable and weak for a meeting. If you root yourself into the ground, no emotional turmoil will harm you. Imagine yourself as a tree with roots going from your 'trank'  into the ground, through the concrete deep into the soil. And then all the nutrients are coming up from the soil through your roots into your body, your legs and torso, into your arms and hands, your shoulders into your head. Now feel every cell of your body getting stabilized. If you prefer a spiritual connection, imagine white light shining on you. I experienced this powerful technique from Rori Raye.

 

#6. POSITIVE

Observe your thoughts. Though you have all these worries and emotions inside you, you can still act despite them. If however, you are getting swept away by thoughts like "I am not able to hold this meeting", "I am to weak" or "I am not myself" you better step back and become aware of your thoughts without evaluating them.

I'm simply having the thought. One easy technique from Russ Harris is to simply replay your negative thought with this phrase: "I'm having the thought that..." for example, that I'm too weak.

Allow your thoughts to come and go like clouds or water passing by. Do not judge them, let them simply come and go. One thought after thought will appear and disappear. This method will help you recognize that your thoughts are always present in your mind but that cannot interfere your actions and words in the meeting.

 

Now it's your choice to test two or three of these tips. There will be no change if you always do the same actions in the hope that the results will eventually come.

What is your favorite tool? Do you have another tip for us? Leave your feedback in the comments.

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I hold a master’s degree in psychology with an over 15-years career in counseling and coaching. I trained with a broad range of international experts like the world-renowned therapist and pioneering hypnotherapist Marisa Peer (Rapid Transformation Therapy Practitioner®), Rori Raye (Relationship Coaching), and Prof. Dr. Justin Kennedy (Applied Neuroscience Coaching).

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#6 Do-It-Yourself Strategies To Manage Stress and Burnout.

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Mental Health Series: Do-It-Yourself

BURNOUT AND STRESS MANAGEMENT: #6 DO-IT-YOURSELF STRATEGIES

16. March 2019

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Burnout has become a buzz word in recent years. It is put on the agenda by many organizations facing a downward spiral in individual and organizational performance. Or leaders use 'burnout' to whitewash a depression or anxiety.

A Gallup study in 2018 found that 23% of 7,500 full-time employees reported feeling burned out at work very often or always, while 44% reported feeling burned out sometimes.

According to the study burned-out employees are 63% more likely to take a sick day and 2.6 times as likely to be actively seeking a different job. And even if they stay, they typically have 13% lower confidence in their performance and are half as likely to discuss how to approach performance goals with their managers.

A study by NeuroBusiness Group in 2013 asked US senior managers and C-Suite executives about the impression of burnout within their organization. 80.55% of them reported that they were burned out: 47.22% responded somewhat, and 33.33% responded “very much”- the two highest categories.

The World Health Organization describes in its International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11) Burn-Out as a syndrome resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.

Modern work-places come with a lot of challenges for employees and leaders: work overload, lack of communication and support, time pressure, lack of clarity, work-life balance, and the list can go on and on.

Of course, the most important step in improving office wellbeing involves taking a closer look what Gallup recommends for better management to reduce burn out.

Although some people find ways to “make it work” and cope with the stressors, many struggle. This is particularly true for people who feel overwhelmed and have not invested in their own mental and emotional resilience and wellbeing. Luckily, there are many ways to accomplish this.

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Use these 6 proven tips to overcome and prevent burnout and other stress related disorders.

 

#1. SLEEP 

You may need more than you think. Sometimes, the best option is to call it a night a couple of hours earlier than normal and get some extra rest. The recommended sleeping time from the National Sleep Foundation is for adults 7 to 9 hours of continuous night sleep.

Make sleep a priority and do not listen to people announcing that they can stay brilliant all day long with only 4 hours of sleep and  the right supplements. Your body undergoes four to five sleep cycles per night, each consisting of light sleep, deep sleep and REM sleep. They all have their function in your mental and physical recovery.

The National Sleep Foundation recommends you practice a relaxing bedtime ritual and evaluate your bedroom: cool temperature, free from noise (consider using ear plugs), free from any light (consider blackout curtains, eye shades) and comfortable mattress and pillows. Avoid using electronics before bedtime and switch off your wifi.

If your sleep cycle has been interrupted for a couple of weeks, please seek medical help to find the underlying issue.

 

 

#2. NUTRITION 

Clean up your diet. When you’re feeling burned out, it can help to eat a healthier diet. Junk food creates more stress and load for your body to deal with. Cutting back on your calories and providing quality nutrition to your body can make a positive difference.

Avoid caffeine and sugar. They are the last things you need if you’re feeling frazzled. They stimulate your body and your mind. They can create more challenges than it solves. It is essential for your brain cells to get good fats from oily fish, nuts and seeds during times of stress.

The brain and gut are connected. You may experienced that a certain situation made you "feel nauseous"? Anger, anxiety, stress, sadness - all of these feelings can trigger symptoms in the gut. Super gut-soothing foods are Sauerkraut ("sour white cabbage"), Asparagus, Aloe Vera Gel, Pineapple, Onion, Garlic, and Kimchi.

 

 

#3. EMOTIONAL CONTROL 

Train your mental state. Follow Tony Robbin’s advice. Change your state by changing your posture, your focus and your language even if you have to force yourself. Whenever you use more height and space in your posture and stance you increase your energy level and decrease your stress level.  Focus on the aspects of your work you enjoy and mentally choose that you are in control and that you are great, amazing, inspiring, a one of a kind. Do not wait for others to see your greatness. If you see it in yourself and appreciate yourself, others will see it too. This is at least my experience.

Meditate. Meditation, listening to relaxing music, praying, or anything else that relaxes your mind can be beneficial. Avoid ruminating over the challenges in your life. Your brain doesn’t get a break unless you create one.

Laugh. Laughing will always make you feel better. Who’s your funniest friend? What’s the funniest movie you’ve ever seen? How can you make yourself laugh? A night of laughter will give you a mental reset and put you in a better position to handle the challenges in your life.

 

 

#4. ACTIVITY

Create a strong contrast between work and home life. If you spend your day quietly writing and planning, you might want to exercise and invite some friends over in the evening.  If your day is busy with meetings and talking with people, you may want to go for long walk or follow your favorite solo hobby after work. With this you balance out different regions of the brain (logic and creative, sedative and active).

You can even release stress, expend excess energy and enhance performance during your day with brain gym exercises. They are designed to engage your full brain.

Maintain  a diverse practice of exercises to benefit your brain: aerobic exercises (boost the number of blood vessels and synapsis in the brain), resistance training and mind-body exercise. Listen to what your body needs.

Commit to at least 15-min a day. Especially when you feel tired and exhausted you may not be able to run for an hour or face the gym. Accept your feelings and be flexible. One day you may go for a brisk walk, another day to may follow a yoga session on youtube etc.

 

 

#5. SOCIAL INTERACTIONS

Spend time with people you genuinely like. This has been shown to be one of the best ways to recover from mental burnout and other stress related disorders. Spending time with someone (family or friend) who makes you smile and feel relaxed can be the best medicine. It creates a form of bonding that in return releases the hormone oxytosin.

Humans are socially programmed to live in groups. The late US scientist Prof. John T. Cacioppo studied the effects of loneliness. When you are alone you are more sensitive to your environment and perceive it as potentially more dangerous putting you under even more stress. The best way for you to gain trust and confidence again is to practice seeing the world in a relaxed and open way. Want to feel instantly better? Then do something good for other people... visiting elderly people, take up a role in a club, mentoring other people, etc.

 

 

#6. ENTHUSIASM

Find something greater than yourself (passion). Reconnect with your why to renew your motivation. You may discover multiple sources of gratification, including supporting your family and contributing to society.

To explore your why ask yourself: "What do I do my whole life with ease?" "What is the most common dominator of all these experiences?" "What is my effect on other people?" "What other people ask me for?" "What choices do I make and what do I express with that?"

Live a life based on values than achieving goals. Values are like a compass that guides you through your life. Connect with your highest values by asking yourself: "What is important for me when I am acting in line with my passion?"

 

Source:

  1. https://www.gallup.com/workplace/237059/employee-burnout-part-main-causes.aspx
    Employee Burnout, Part 1: The 5 Main Causes, Gallup Workplace, by Ben Wigert and Sangeeta Agrawal
  2. https://arielle.com.au/c-suite-burnout-survey-summary
    C-Suite Burnout Survey 2013, Steven McConnell, August 27, 2013

WORK-LIFE BALANCE ASSESSMENT

 

Maintaining a healthy work-life balance protects you from burnout and increases your productivity. Setting reasonable boundaries gives you time and energy to devote to your relationships and other personal activities.

However, busy schedules and modern technology can make it difficult to disconnect at the end of the workday unless you develop habits that help you to be fully present at home.

A) Rate how much you agree with the following statements on a scale of 1 (least) to 5 (most).

B) Then, identify small changes that will help you to reduce stress and take care of each important aspect of your life.

 

1. I feel like I’m neglecting my responsibilities at home or work.

(Example: Rating 2. I will set realistic goals and give myself credit for my efforts and accomplishments.)

1 (Strongly Disagree) 5 (Strongly Agree)

 

2. I ask others for help when I need it.

(Example: Rating 4. I will assign my children household chores appropriate for their ages.)

1 (Strongly Disagree) 5 (Strongly Agree)

 

3. My priorities are clear.

(Example: Rating 4. I will plan my day each morning and block out hours for my most urgent and important tasks.)

1 (Strongly Disagree) 5 (Strongly Agree)

 

4. I manage workplace stress effectively.

(Example: Rating 3. I will stretch or go for a walk when I feel tense.)

1 (Strongly Disagree) 5 (Strongly Agree)

 

5. I avoid excessive overtime.

(Example: Rating 4. I will schedule challenging tasks for the hours when I am at peak performance so I won’t have to stay late to complete them.)

1 (Strongly Disagree) 5 (Strongly Agree)

 

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Consider how you came to be in this situation. Do you need to make some changes at work, a different job, or a more satisfying relationship? Could it help you to speak to a professional? What needs to happen to prevent the same situation from happening again?

My goal as an executive coach is to provide rapid and long-lasting changes for professionals who go through life changes or challenging situations resulting in burnout, stress and anxiety. No matter where you are in the world, the therapy sessions are held online. 4-Hours of my Elevate Intensive and you will improve the quality of your life, switch your body back to peace and balance, and gain clarity and focus.

I hold a master’s degree in psychology with an over 15-years career in counseling and coaching. I trained with a broad range of international experts like the world-renowned therapist and pioneering hypnotherapist Marisa Peer (Rapid Transformation Therapy Practitioner®), Rori Raye (Relationship Coaching), and Prof. Dr. Justin Kennedy (Applied Neuroscience Coaching).

Contact me today to learn how I can help make things better!  www.silkcelia.com

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How To Improve Your Self-Confidence in 9 Effective Ways.

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I remember a situation at work when my boss – a 65 year old Tin-Tin, rushed into my office and blurred at me: “I am paying you a lot of money. You are the psychologist here.  We lost the proposal because of you. The way you put it together! So unprofessional!”

I felt between angry and helpless. The way you feel when someone blames you for things you are not responsible for but want to push it on to you?

So I rushed up from my chair and responded: “If I had been so bad, why I got always very good in the audits of the last of 5 years?”

Inside I felt very vulnerabel, but could I have shown this to my boss and lay down? In this fight-flight-freeze situation?

I had to defend myself. I had to show my abilities and confidence in them. The alternative would had been anxiety and freezing or running away.

After the meeting I felt drained and exhausted. I looked for my mistakes!
Was it the documents I put? Was it the handling of the case?

Then it stroke me:

I know that I am not a legal expert!

I know that I get easily defensive when people question my abilities.

I know that I wanted to leave that company much ealier and still stayed.

I know that I am good in therapy and healing.

Accepting who I am, with my your shortcomings, character, strengths, habits, and tendencies. shifted my inner state.

Accepting yourself is a process. It’s a habit. The little things you do, or fail to do, each day determine your level of self-acceptance. Developing these useful habits and dropping the negative habits is a huge step in the right direction. It’s hard to accept yourself any other way.

Be accepting of  yourself each and every day by making these actions habits:

 

  1. Let go of your mistakes and failures. Take the necessary time to learn from your negative experiences. Once you’ve done that, there’s nothing else to be gained by them. Let them go.

○      Decide how you can avoid making the same error in the future. Then move on.

  1. Only compare yourself to yourself. Comparing yourself to someone else is like comparing a tree to a loaf of bread. There’s no comparison. However, you can compare yourself to your previous results.

○      If you’re doing “better,” you have every right to be excited.

○      If you’re coming up short, be excited that you know you can easily rectify the situation.

  1. Separate yourself from your emotions. Your emotions are separate from you. They are something that you’re experiencing, just like someone stepping on your toe. Observe them as a feeling in your body, or as a piece of paper blowing down the street. Just observe them.

○      A piece of paper blowing by doesn’t have any control over you. Your emotions don't have to control you either.

  1. Be aware of what makes you unique and embrace it. It might be your flaming red hair, your incredible IQ, or your compassion for animals. Maybe you’re in the bottom 5th percentile for height. You’re not exactly the same as anyone else.

○      It’s your uniqueness that potentially provides the most value to you and the world.

  1. Let go of the things you can’t change or control. You’re not accepting of your life or your limitations if you worry about those things beyond your influence.

○      Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do about this?” If not, there’s no reason to dwell on it.

  1. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Avoid denying your impulses. If you’ve always want to learn how to play the bagpipes or write a sappy screenplay, now is the time. When you deny your healthy impulses, you’re not accepting yourself.
  2. Be more assertive. Let people know what you think. Give your opinion. Allow your voice to be heard. Do the things you want to do. Assertiveness is a form of honesty - about you and your own desires.
  3. Recognize your thoughts and feelings. Examine your self-talk. Stand in front of a full-length mirror and take a good look at yourself. Notice your thoughts throughout the day. Acknowledge how you judge yourself.

○      Most people distract themselves with TV, the internet, food, their smartphone, or some other strategy. This is to avoid spending time with themselves. Turn off the distractions and notice what happens.

  1. Continue evolving. Those with little self-acceptance tend to be stuck. They can’t move toward anything positive. Be honest with yourself about what you like and dislike and allow your life to evolve.

Treat each day as a new opportunity to practice self-acceptance. You must choose self-acceptance if you want to experience it firsthand. It won’t happen by accident. Develop self-acceptance habits and drop your tendency to judge yourself harshly. Free yourself from your emotions.

 

“I think happiness comes from self-acceptance. We all try different things, and we find some comfortable sense of who we are. We look at our parents and learn and grow and move on. We change.”

– Jamie Lee Curtis

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

 

Silke Glaab (aka >>SilkCelia) is a Human Behavior Expert for Executives and Entrepreneurs to Make Profound Life & Career Changes in 4 hours by using super learning tools like Hypnotherapy, Systemic Work and Theta Healing.
Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

 

How To Create Abundance from Scarcity in 8 Steps.

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Most people live with a scarcity mindset. In certain parts of the world, the population has a good reason to feel this way. There is a shortage of food, clean water, and housing in much of the world. Much of our scarcity thinking is driven by advertisers and the media in general. We are encouraged to consume and achieve more.

 

Even when we have enough, we’re told that we need a better car, better clothes, or a higher income to be successful and impress the neighbors. It’s no wonder we feel like there isn’t enough for everyone.

 

Move your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance with these strategies:

 

  1. Those with a scarcity mindset have a very short-term perspective. If you regularly find yourself only concerned with entertaining yourself as much as possible each moment, you might have a scarcity mindset. The utilization of resources right now prevents them from being taken away later.
  • Overeating and overspending can be symptoms of a scarcity mindset. “Better eat it or spend it now before it’s gone” is poor way to view the world.
  1. Focus on what you already have. You might already have enough to have a grateful and positive mindset. When you see that you have enough, you won’t be worried about losing it. You have plenty.
  2. Avoid people that complain a lot. Complainers have a scarcity mindset. You’re more susceptible to the mindset of others than you think. Find positive people to include in your social circle. There are so many people in the world, why spend time with those that make your life harder?
  3. Focus on what you can have in the future. Instead of worrying about what you might lose, spend some time thinking about what you can gain in the future. Look forward to the future rather than fear it.
  • Visualize an exciting future. Develop positive feelings about the future. Isn’t that the foundation of an abundance mindset?
  1. Avoid wasting time. By taking part in frivolous activities, you waste your most valuable resource – your time. Value your time and you’ll have more of it.
  2. Keep a journal. Keep it positive. List the things in your life that make you feel grateful. Be sure to mention all the people in your life. You probably have a home, a job, a car, family, friends, and so on. That’s a good start to a wonderful life.
  3. Get organized. Getting organized can greatly hasten your move from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset. Organize your closet, garage, or attic. You’ll be surprised by how many things you own. Getting organized will also free up more time. When you realize that you have more things and time than you thought, you’ll think more abundantly.
  4. Be generous. Convince yourself that there is enough for everyone by sharing what you have. The more you’re willing to share, the more others are willing to share with you. That includes sharing your time.

 

One of the primary steps to having more is believing that there is enough for everyone. When you have a scarcity mindset, you become defensive and protective. You also create the false belief that everything will be a greater challenge than it is. When you imagine that something is difficult, you’re more likely to procrastinate or discourage yourself altogether.

 

An abundance mindset won’t magically place a Mercedes in your garage or add few zeros to your bank account. However, an abundance mindset will allow you to enthusiastically take the necessary steps to make these types of changes in your life.

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

 

Silke Glaab (aka >>SilkCelia) is a Human Behaviour Expert for Executives and Entrepreneurs to make profound professional and personal changes in 4 hours by using super learning tools like Hypnotherapy and Systemic Work.
Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

 

How To Find Your True Self: 7 Ways To Reveal it.

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How To Find Your True Self

 

Your true self is the part of you that is constant. It transcends your body, emotions, and experiences. It is the essence of you.

How would you describe yourself? You might declare that you are Susan, wife of Bob, a pharmaceutical sales rep, and have Scottish ancestry.

However, if you had been named Beth, married a guy named Steve, worked as a nurse and had Irish ancestors, you would still be the same person you are now. Your life and experiences might be different, but you would still be fundamentally the same person.

There’s something about you that’s constant, though it’s hard to describe exactly what that is.

Who are you?

One thing is for certain: when you’re living a life that aligns with your true self, you’re going to be happy. If you’re not living a life that resonates with your true self, you’ll feel like something is lacking. It doesn’t matter how much success, fortune, and fame you achieve if your true self isn’t honored.

Try these ideas to discover your true self and reveal your path in life:

  1. What is your level of introversion / extroversion? Do you feel more energized and comfortable when alone or with others? When are you at your best?
  • If you’re naturally introverted, a job that requires interacting with people all day long is going to create a lot of stress and anxiety.
  • Spending time alone in a cubicle working on a computer might drive you crazy if you’re extroverted.
  1. What did you like as a child that you still like today? It might be baseball, Scooby-Doo cartoons, pizza, and afternoon naps. Dig deeper than that. You might find that you’ve always craved adventure, creativity, and helping others. Think about the characteristics and qualities in your life that have been constant.
  2. If you could accomplish anything, what do you think would be your greatest accomplishment? Is it earning a billion dollars or winning a Nobel Peace Prize? Maybe it’s writing a best-selling book or adopting a disadvantaged child. What do you think is the greatest accomplishment a person can have?
  3. What do you consider to be the most important lessons you could teach a child? What do you wish you had known when you were 10-20 years of age? What could you have known that would have made your life more meaningful?
  4. What would you do with great wealth? After you bought a mansion and a fancy car, what would you do with your life? What would you do with your free time and extensive financial resources?
  5. Who are your heroes? Albert Einstein? John D. Rockefeller? Mother Teresa? Whom do you look up to? Why? Whose life would you most like to emulate? Whom would you be most proud to be like?
  6. Think about who you have been. Sometimes we get too caught up in who we want to be and ignore who we are. You might dream of being a Rockstar, but can’t carry a tune, can’t play an instrument, and suffer from panic attacks when faced with an audience. We all have to accept our limitations.
  • It’s important to make the most of your life but be realistic about who you are.
  • What are your natural strengths and weaknesses? Likes and dislikes?

You can’t create your true self. You can only discover, acknowledge, and accept it.

Whatever your true self might be, you can be sure that it’s spectacular. It’s your job to reveal it to yourself and then honor it. Run with your interests and strengths. Avoid worrying about your dislikes and weaknesses. Honor yourself and enjoy your life.

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

 

Silke Glaab (aka >>SilkCelia) is a Rapid Transformation Coach for Executives and Entrepreneurs to Make Profound Life & Career Changes in 4 hours by using super learning tools like Hypnotherapy, Systemic Work and Theta Healing.
Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

 

Career Crossroad: 4 Tips To Choose Right

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"Shall I stay in my comfort with my benefits or quit and change my career?, a client I coach - a doctor in the pharmaceutical industry, asked me.

"I am at a crossroad of my career and have to make the right decision! Is it really worth starting again and trying something new"

Making a career choice and sticking to it is not as easy as it sounds, especially in today’s economic climate. It can be nerve-wracking to go through the process of choosing a path, especially when you’re not sure if it’ll take you to a long-lived career.

So how do you know which path to take? How can you be sure that going in a certain direction is the absolute best thing to do?

 

Consider these thought processes to help you make the career choice that's right for you:

 

  1. Believe in the worth of your efforts. Only you know how much work and effort you’ve put into making yourself ready for the ideal career. And, as the saying goes, “You get out what you put in.” If you are genuinely satisfied that you’ve made the most thorough preparations, then pat yourself on the back and go for it!
  • Consider how your achievements measure up to others in positions similar to the one you want to be in.
  • Determine if the success you’ve achieved has equipped you to take the path you most want to take.
  • Trust that you’re good enough for it!

 

  1. Know your career goals. One of the most significant aspects of choosing the right career path is determining what you want to achieve from it. Take a look at the options in front of you. How well do they measure up to your goals?
  • Do you see yourself becoming the CFO in the Northwest if you choose Option 1?
  • Will the recognition you desire be forthcoming after two years working in Option 2?
  • Can you safely say either option will allow you to reap the financial rewards you’re aiming for?

 

  1. Do it for all the right reasons. When chasing success, it’s very easy to get sidetracked by all the frills that seem to come with it. In fact, you may even lose sight of why you’re chasing a particular goal! Why would you choose a particular path? Is it to fit in with peers? Is it to prove to naysayers that you actually have what it takes?
  • Always choose the path that makes you happy and gives you pride in your achievement.
  • Make choices that work out best for you and your family; forget those people on the outside looking in.

 

  1. Never compromise your beliefs. Above all, what’s ultimately important when at a professional crossroads is sticking to what you believe in. It can be really tempting to jump at an offer that seems to have everything you ever wanted, with the “small” exception that you have to step on toes to get to the top!
  • If you believe there’s a right way to achieve the professional success you want, stick to it!
  • Usually, the choices that are the hardest to make are the best ones to make. It might not seem lucrative now, but you’ll never know what’s around the corner!

 

Remember that all that glitters isn’t gold! Sometimes the best road is the roughest road because at the end of it will be all the goals and successes you always dreamed of. Always remember to stay true to yourself and your goals; success is inevitable if you do!

 

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Silke Glaab (aka >>SilkCelia) is a Rapid Transformation Coach for Executives and Entrepreneurs to Make Profound Life & Career Changes in 4 hours by using super learning tools like Hypnotherapy, Systemic Work and Theta Healing.
Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

 

Depression: The Dark Side of Entrepreneurship

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Entrepreneurship and Depression

Entrepreneur depression is a fact, but not often talked about. The pressure to succeed and the fear of failure makes many people running ambitious businesses afraid to ask for help.

Maybe you relate to the story of Andrew and the symptoms he shows.

Find out about a survey done in 2010 among entrepreneurs by Michael E. Freeman at al., which brought some unexpected mental health issue to light.

For those who recognize the symptoms, find practical help how to face your depression.

Pease scroll down for the transcript of the video.

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Depression: The Dark Side of Entrepreneurship

 

Let me tell you about Andrew.

You may know someone like him.

He left his corporate job and went into the start-up world with a big idea.

He said he would become the number one motivational speaker and coach.

Thousands of followers… but not many paying clients.

Thousands of sold books and seats…. after a huge advertisement campaign.

Everybody thought Andrew is successful, yet his liabilities were above his assets.

Everybody saw him as confident and persuasive. Himself he had convinced that he’s not enough.

From the outside he was energetic, but felt irritable and weak most of the time.

He painted a colorful future for others, but his own picture was black and blank.

He traveled the world, but felt more disconnected and couldn’t enjoy it like before.

His life was moving him instead him moving.

 

We think entrepreneurship is

Freedom, but all responsibilities are on you.

It is working on your terms for long hours without break.

You can land a big deal, but live with chronic uncertainty to get the next one sealed.

You can work from anywhere, but your work is every time.

You can be profitable one day, but it takes time to lift off.

You fail and grieve like the loss of a loved one.

 

An online survey based on self-reports of 242 entrepreneurs by Michael E. Freeman et al in 2010 revealed that 72% reported a mental health concern (significant higher than the comparison group). 30% reported a life time history of depression, 29% ADHD and 27% anxiety. Compared to the National Centre of Health Statistics 7% of Americans were identified with depression.

 

It’s okay to work hard on your business, but nourish your brain with enough sleep, good nutrition and exercise.

It’s okay not to be strong and efficient, so find the right counselor or therapist to express your feelings and thoughts in a confidential setting to find ways to cope with stress and failure.

It’s okay to hide your issues from the public, so find the right community to chat with supportive people who have overcome similar issues and who listen to you without judgement.

It’s okay not to know it all, so find a mentor who has proven to build a profitable business.

You cannot do it all alone, so delegate or outsource things which are draining your energy to team members.

As you take salary out of your business, take time out of your week to unwind yourself.

First and foremost, a start-up puts you on an emotional rollercoaster unlike anything you have ever experienced. - Marc Andreessen

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

Silke Glaab (aka SilkCelia) is a psychologist (MA) who helps executives, entrepreneurs and experts to be more resilient to stress and dramatically improve their thinking and feeling so that they enhance their performance and leave a legacy in their companies, their lives and the world.

 

Silk uses rapid transformation therapy to help clients to transform the roots of a presented issue within minutes while using neuroscience to boost brain power and emotional intelligence to create mindful behavior and decision making in all areas of life.

Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

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How To Be Grateful in Times of Need

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How Gratitude increases happiness

When money is tight and you're faced with worries, it's not easy to see the bright side of life. These worries can often cloud your thoughts and bring your mood to a low.😒

Remind yourself what's going right.

In this video I'll share an easy tool 🔧 to shift your focus 🔭 to What you already have!

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Remind Yourself About What's Going Right

If you're plagued by negative thoughts, find a quiet place, grab a pen and paper and make a list of answers to this question:

What do I have to be grateful for in my life?

Start your list with the most obvious things, your health and family.
Do you have a car? A home? Clothes on your back? Food on the table?

  • You don't have to have the fanciest or the most expensive items for you to be grateful.

A used car in good condition will get you to work just as easily as a brand new car.

You don’t own a villa and rent an apartment, but at you have roof above your head to feel secure.

  • Don't forget to give thanks for the small things in life, such as finding the car keys in time to get to work. For me it’s seeing a smile in another person.

You can also try to sit quietly in a room and meditate on your life and things you want to improve on.

Appreciating what you already have in life will free you to make the changes you desire.

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

Silke Glaab (aka SilkCelia) is a psychologist (MA) who helps executives, entrepreneurs and experts to be more resilient to stress and dramatically improve their thinking and feeling so that they enhance their performance and leave a legacy in their companies, their lives and the world.

 

Silk uses rapid transformation therapy to help clients to transform the roots of a presented issue within minutes while using neuroscience to boost brain power and emotional intelligence to create mindful behavior and decision making in all areas of life.

Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in diverse industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

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Spotlight: How Decision Making Works

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How We Make Decisions

In this video you'll get the basic knowledge how we make decisions in our professional and private life:

1. The decision making steering committee.
2. Fast and slow decisions.
3. The truth about our free will.
4. Our daily biases.
5. I can predict your decisions.
6. Who makes better decisions: The CEO or a Team
7. The power of diverse teams
8. All rounded up.

All knowledge of neuroscience, psychology and philosophy packed in a poetic video.

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Once you make a decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong. Only a series of possibilities that shift each thought, feeling, and action that you experience  - Deepak Chopra

Each every person approaches his/her options differently.

Our decisions are like a parliament of decision making voices in our brain.

There are two steering committees in us:

one for fast and one for slow decisions.

Every day we decide where to sit, what to eat…

We decide which doctor to choose, which car to buy, how to fill out a tax form…

We believe we decide in the moment, but our brain has already decided before we are aware of that moment.

Imagine neurons in a steering committee voting for a preference before it is presented to us as the Executive.

We believe we decide based on rational thinking, but we are biased when we do it.

We hear about 2 plane crashes, and take the train.

We hear about pollution of oceans, and continue to drink bottled water in Bali.

We have a high value for human life, but when we call them cockroaches we kill them.

We would opt for an operation with 60% survival rate, but not for one with 40% death rate.

 

It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. - Roy Disney.

I say: “It’s not hard to predict your decisions when I know what your meta programs are.”

To know your motivation direction, ask: What is important to you about your work/business?

To know your frame of reference, ask: Who do you turn to when trying to make a big decision?

To know if you need more demonstrating, ask: How often does someone have to demonstrate competence to you before you’re convinced.

To know if you think general or specific, ask: If you decide on something, do you need to know the master-plan or the details.

 

Decision Making drives 95% of business performance.

As Executives we believe in our ideas and knowledge.

ButgGuess who makes better decisions? The CEO or a team?

Teams make better decisions 66% of the time.

We want fresh ideas, but not the young.

We want expertise, but not the old.

We want the best decisions, but have all kinds of stereotypes...

Diverse teams (Age, Gender) make better decisions than individuals 80% of the time.

Diverse teams (Age, Gender, Geographic diversity) make better decisions than individuals 87% of the time.

­­­­­­­­­Imagine in your company or neighborhood such diverse teams starting to think into the future?

 

With the two thinking systems in us, we decide with heart and mind.

Sometimes we need to slow down and think rational.

Sometimes we need empathy for another person to change our actions.

Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes we make a decision right. - Phil Mc Graw

 

REFLECT:

WHAT DO YOU TAKE OUT OF THE VIDEO?

WHAT WAS YOUR GREATEST INSIGHT?

HOW CAN YOU IMPROVE YOUR DECISIONS?

 

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Famous Failures Who Succeeded At Last

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Is the Fear of Failure Holding You Back from Achieving Success?

Nobody enjoys failing, but you may be letting a fear of failure sabotage your chances for success. Some people are so afraid to fail that they refuse to try. However, failing to try is the only true failure. If you try something and fail, try again. Eventually you’ll succeed.

Without trying, your chances of success are 0%. We are here to live our best lives.

There are countless stories of historical figures that failed time and time again, but didn’t give up. Perseverance led them to success. Success is not built in seconds but through a life time.

Read these stories about people who simply wouldn’t quit:

Harlan Sanders.

Harlan Sanders, also known as Colonel Sanders, is famous for being the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken.

  • The Colonel faced many hardships because his famous fried chicken recipe wasn’t an instant success. When trying to market his chicken recipe to restaurants, Colonel Sanders was rejected 1,009 times.
  • In 1952, he finally persuaded a Utah restaurant owner to partner with him and they launched the first Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurant.
  • By the early 1960s, there were over 600 locations in the United States and Canada.

 

Babe Ruth.

Babe Ruth was one of the most famous home run hitters in the history of baseball. He had 714 home runs when he ended his career in 1935. That record stood until 1974 when Hank Aaron hit his 715th career home run.

  • What many don't realize about Babe Ruth is that in addition to his home runs, he also had 1330 career strikeouts. However, he didn't let the strikeouts bother him. Babe once said, "Every strikeout brings me closer to the next home run."

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If you're letting a fear of failure hold you back from accomplishing your dreams, think about all these examples. How different would things have been if they had quit?

If these individuals had been afraid to fail, they wouldn’t have gone on to achieve the incredible success they enjoyed. Successful people embrace failure because they realize that there is no such thing as success without it.

 

Time to Reflect:

What are you afraid of?

What is the worst thing which could happen? 

And from that, what is the worst thing which can happen?

Continue this questions until you'll find the not of your fear.

 

For coaching, workshops and speaking. Please feel free to contact me here:  silkcelia.com

Silke Glaab (aka SilkCelia) is a psychologist (MA) who helps executives, entrepreneurs and experts to be more resilient to stress and dramatically improve their thinking and feeling so that they enhance their performance and leave a legacy in their companies, their lives and the world.

 

Silk uses rapid transformation therapy to help clients to transform the roots of a presented issue within minutes while using neuroscience to boost brain power and emotional intelligence to create mindful behavior and decision making in all areas of life.

Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in divers industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.

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Albert Einstein.

.Albert Einstein. The name Albert Einstein is synonymous with genius. He's one of the most brilliant scientists who ever walked the earth. But did you know that Einstein didn’t speak until he was four years old, and didn’t learn to read until he was seven? When he was growing up, one of his teachers described Albert Einstein as "mentally slow."

  • Of course, when he grew up he went on to win the Nobel Prize in physics, devised the theory of relativity, and came up with probably the most famous formula in history, E=mc2.

 

Henry Ford.

Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, is famous for his innovations in manufacturing and coming up with the idea of the assembly line.

  • Although Ford achieved tremendous fame, fortune, and success in his lifetime, he also had several businesses early on that didn’t make it. His previously failed businesses left Henry Ford completely broke five times before he found success with manufacturing cars.

John Grisham.

John Grisham is a wildly successful author who has sold millions of books, many of which have been turned into blockbuster movies. Getting his first book published wasn't so easy though. His first book, A Time to Kill, was rejected by 28 different publishers before one publisher finally took a chance on him and printed 5,000 copies.

  • Despite his rocky start, Grisham has gone on to sell over 250 million copies of his books.

Sylvester Stallone.

Sylvester Stallone is a famous movie star, but many of his fans are unaware of the struggles he went through to break into the business.

  • He was so strapped for cash at one point that he had to sell his dog for $25 in order to pay his electric bill. Just two weeks later, he wrote the script for Rocky and started trying to secure a movie deal.
  • Sylvester Stallone was rejected over 1,500 times before United Artists offered him $125,000 for the Rocky script. However, the studio didn’t want Stallone to star in the movie.
  • Back in the 1970s, $125,000 was a huge amount of money, but Stallone still refused. United Artists upped their offer to $250,000 and then to $325,000. Stallone wouldn’t accept the deal unless he was able to star in the movie.
  • He eventually accepted a different deal that paid him just $35,000 and a percentage of the profits.
    Fortunately for Sylvester Stallone, the original movie went on to gross over $200 million. The Rocky franchise, with all of the sequels, has grossed over $1 billion.